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The book of Ecclesiastes says "Two are better than one". The marriage relationship is seen in the Bible as a friendship. Husbands and wives are meant to compliment each other.
The five love languages are dispersed relatively evenly between men and women. The important thing is for you to learn the primary love language of your spouse.
Marriage isn't God's design to make each other miserable. God ordained marriage because two are better than one. When the husband and wife reach out to serve each other, they both become winners.
Dr. Gary Chapman's seminars aren't only for married couples. Engaged couples and even single adults attend as well.
If you don't get good results from doing a task but you don't ask for input from someone you trust, you won't improve or grow. You'll always win when you ask for input.
When you're angry, be sure to get all the facts before you take action. It's easy to jump to conclusion about what someone did or said. Ask questions and make sure you understand all the facts.
Communication is the lifeline for a growing marriage. So what do you do when your spouse won't talk? Don't condemn them. Instead, ask them questions about a topic they're interested in.
Confession should ideally precede forgiveness. But if someone has sinned against you and has never confessed, ask God to help you forgive them anyway. This will allow you to rid yourself of the sin of bitterness.
The good new is, all 5 love languages can be spoken long distance. Expressing them verbally or in written form can communicate your love while separated.
There's a lot of unlovely people in this world. One of them might be your spouse. As difficult as it is, the most powerful thing you can do is to love your unlovely spouse.