Who am I? I've asked myself this question many times. If you are familiar with the Enneagram test, I score a number four, which means I constantly struggle with my identity. No matter what personality you have, you may have stared in the mirror asking yourself, "Who am I" This can look different for each person. You could be asking, "what kind of job should I choose" or "who should I marry" or "was what people said about me really true?" From my experience, my identity is not always clear to me. When I have a question about myself, I go to my husband, my friends, and my mom. If knowing who we are begins with relationships, then we would be wise to be concerned with who we choose to go to with that question.
I've been learning more about myself since getting married to my husband John a little less than a year ago. One thing I've learned about myself is how I receive love. I always thought I would feel loved through quality time. Since being married, I realized my love tank gets full when my husband performs an act of service, such as fixing the car or helping me with a blog post. John and I are simultaneously figuring this out. Without him, I may never have realized that I appreciate someone who helps me with a task much more than I would appreciate someone who spends time with me. The more I get to know John, the more I get to know myself. That's how a relationship works. A bad relationship would be if I got to know John and he never got to know me or vice versa. Sometimes in human relationships, we don't know each other equally. One person can feel unknown while the other does not feel the same. This is why I go to the feet of Jesus Christ to determine who I am.
Having a relationship with Jesus Christ is like having a perfect best friend who is there at all times. He has promised to never leave you nor forsake you. He knows you and yet still loves you; He has listened to your secrets and He wants to hear your fears. Isn't that refreshing? Through my relationship with Jesus, I have realized that I don't truly know His kindness, His goodness, or His faithfulness. However, every day I walk with Him, He shows me more of Himself. Having a relationship with Christ is vitally important to me. That's why the Apostle Paul prayed for the church in Ephesus to know Jesus better.
"For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all God's people, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better" (Ephesians 1:15-17).
In chapter one of the Book of Ephesians, Paul is explaining to the church about their identities in Christ. Here are seven things we can learn about who we are in Christ from this first chapter:
I love this list. Through it, we can see how involved Christ is in forming our identity. When our relationship with Christ starts to define us, the world makes a lot more sense. Who we are becomes clearer. There are two things we can start doing practically according to Ephesians 1 –– become grounded in our identity in Christ, and pray that others come to know Christ on a deeper level.
Since knowing Christ more every day, I have learned so much about who I am. I also have more of a desire for others to know who they are. I've learned about myself through my relationship with my husband; however, it does not compare to how much I have learned about who I am through my relationship with Christ. If you come to know who you are through a reciprocal relationship with Christ, you will not regret it. He never changes, and is always loving, kind, and faithful. If you don't know that about Him yet, try opening up your heart through diving deeper into your relationship with Jesus today.
Hannah Lynn hosts Moody Radio’s That’s Real and is an engineer for Karl and Crew mornings. She grew up as a homeschooler on a tree farm, plays the harp (ask her about harp camp), drives a Prius (don’t judge), and started a fashion blog while a student at Moody Bible Institute (yes, that’s possible). Hannah loves to tell people about Jesus—as a seven-year-old she witnessed to her ballet teacher, then she started a Young Life club while in high school. Now she mentors teens with her husband, John, who serves as a youth pastor.
That’s Real with Hannah Lynn gives a one-minute dose of encouragement and advice to young adults who want to love and live God’s Word. Her fast-paced mix of storytelling and Bible truth helps create understanding between young believers and anyone who wants to follow Jesus one day at a time.