When I graduated from college, I moved in with eight girls in a four-bedroom apartment. Not one of us had a consistent job, and all of us were confused about what to do next. Combine eight girls with the insecure feelings of confusion and fear, and you have a disaster on your hands. By the end of the summer, we weren't talking to each other. We broke the lease, my best friend moved to California, I moved in with my parents, and one of my roommates had to move back to Taiwan.
Hopefully, your transition from college into the working world is not as traumatic as mine was. Here are some life adjustments that I would like to suggest:
If a full-time employee or intern, naps in the middle of the day are no longer acceptable.
The world is open and full of choices.
Everything seems to cost more!
You might miss your college cafeteria. You actually have to learn how to cook.
Your built-in college community is no longer available.
One thing I tried hard to do when I was a post-grad trying to survive in the working world was going to church. I went to church alone most of the time. It was awkward; the usher kept treating me as if I was new every week, and it was hard to find a career or 20's group that wasn't full of married couples. I kept my head up and braved the lonely feeling every Sunday, week after week. After a while, I found myself with a new family.
Being a part of a Christian community is so important to find right out of college. If not married or dating now, it is possible that eventually, this will be the case. If or when this does become the case, it is wise to have a good group of people in our lives who know us and can speak truth into a new dating relationship. If we are married, it is pertinent to seek out older and wiser couples to give us tips on how to love our spouses in such a way that God would have us. Not only do we benefit from these relationships, but through wisdom gained, we can also help enrich the church body by serving in ways such as mentoring high school students, working with children middle school, or being a friend to someone in similar situations.
1 Corinthians 12:12-13, 21-27 says,
"12For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. 13 For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body . . .
21 The eye cannot say to the hand, 'I have no need of you,' nor again the head to the feet, 'I have no need of you.' 22 On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, 24 which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, 25 that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. 26 If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.
27 Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it."
We need the body of Christ, just as the body of Christ needs us. From my experience, it is worth the initial awkward feelings and hard work. God never intended us to be alone; He created us to be in relationship with others. He makes it clear throughout his word that he wants us in community. As Hebrews 10:24-25 says, "24And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, 25 not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near." We would all do well to continue attending church and not shying away from getting to know other Christians. Over time, this will secure a family, and this life-after-college-thing won't have to be done alone.
Hannah Lynn hosts Moody Radio’s That’s Real and is an engineer for Karl and Crew mornings. She grew up as a homeschooler on a tree farm, plays the harp (ask her about harp camp), drives a Prius (don’t judge), and started a fashion blog while a student at Moody Bible Institute (yes, that’s possible). Hannah loves to tell people about Jesus—as a seven-year-old she witnessed to her ballet teacher, then she started a Young Life club while in high school. Now she mentors teens with her husband, John, who serves as a youth pastor.
That’s Real with Hannah Lynn gives a one-minute dose of encouragement and advice to young adults who want to love and live God’s Word. Her fast-paced mix of storytelling and Bible truth helps create understanding between young believers and anyone who wants to follow Jesus one day at a time.