I had someone ask me this question: Why is marriage easier as a Christian? Listen, loneliness is a struggle for those in relationships or those who are single. When you know Jesus, you know that loneliness is a longing for a relationship that only God can satisfy. That loneliness feeling won’t go away when you’re married or when you move closer to family…That loneliness feeling is a reminder that God is the only relationship that can give you wholeness. We are all created for a relationship with our creator God. And Romans 3:23 tells us that sin separated us from God and our relationship with others. We will experience wholeness again in Heaven through Jesus Christ. If we don’t know that no human can fill us, we start placing unnecessary expectations on our spouses that no human was created to satisfy. That’s my answer to why marriage is easier as a Christian. It takes the pressure off of your spouse to fulfill your loneliness void that only a relationship with God when we are in heaven can fill.
How do you define success? Is it the car someone drives, is it how young someone looks? Is it how well their kids turned out? the Bible talks about success in terms that we would define it as. Success is a desired outcome. However, God is more concerned about our heart than physical success. Let’s look at David’s life. He had people fighting wars for him. He was favored in God’s eyes and he was a hero to his people. That’s when success turned into pride. The outcome was destruction on his family. But look at Joseph’s story. Genesis 39:2-4 says, The Lord was with Joseph, and he became a successful man… his master saw that the Lord was with Him… So Joseph’s success pointed back to God. That kind of success can only happen by humbly submitting our plans and our lives to God. Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit your work to the lord and your plans will be established.” Success through pride - destructive. Success through humility - inspiring. Let's commit our life to the Lord first and stay humble even if we do receive some kind of success on this earth. Always remember that God is with you through the ups and downs.
I learned so much about marriage when I was single because of this one reason. I had married friends. Now, this isn’t the only reason a single person should have married friends. Not everyone is called to married. However, I am so so so thankful that I got to watch my married friends go through their first two years of marriage. I learned so much from watching what they learned and processed in the beginning. Again, this isn’t how everyone’s marriages are, however, a good amount start out hard because of how much of an adjustment it is. I am thankful for how my married friends didn’t shut me out of their lives because I “wouldn’t get it”. I am thankful I was in a small group where there were all ages and life stages. We need each other. We need to see how God answers prayers in each life stage as we go through this faith journey. Bring people along for the ride — God might just use your faith in a specific life stage to encourage another friend to trust Him too.
Hannah Lynn hosts Moody Radio’s That’s Real and is an engineer for Karl and Crew mornings. She grew up as a homeschooler on a tree farm, plays the harp (ask her about harp camp), drives a Prius (don’t judge), and started a fashion blog while a student at Moody Bible Institute (yes, that’s possible). Hannah loves to tell people about Jesus—as a seven-year-old she witnessed to her ballet teacher, then she started a Young Life club while in high school. Now she mentors teens with her husband, John, who serves as a youth pastor.